Finding an English-speaking couples therapist in Germany who does sustained depth work, not communication skills, not six sessions, not homework, is difficult. The Krankenkasse system has long waitlists and operates in German. Private English-speaking therapists exist in Berlin and Munich but the pool is small and they're often fully booked.
I work with couples who need to work in English and happen to be in Germany. That might mean you moved here together and the relocation changed the balance in ways neither of you has fully named. It might mean something that was already there got louder when the external structure fell away. It might mean neither of you can identify when it started, just that something is different now.
Couples work here is about finding what the argument is actually about, which is usually not what it appears to be about. The same fight in different forms. The move that changed who has power and who doesn't. The relationship that's become the whole ecosystem, and what that does.
The work
The work I do is relational and pattern-focused. I don't run through intake checklists or assign exercises between sessions. I pay attention to what happens in the room: what you're saying, what you're not saying, the moments when something shifts or goes flat or speeds up. That's the material we work with.
Most people arrive already knowing the story of their situation. They've told it to themselves a hundred times and always land in the same place. What's missing is a different angle, someone watching in real time who can name what's invisible from inside it. That's what I offer. Not interpretation from a distance, but attention in the room, offered as it happens.
I work with individuals and couples. Individual work is usually about finding the pattern underneath the presenting problem, the thing that keeps recurring in different forms across different circumstances. Couples work is about finding what the argument is really about, which is rarely what it appears to be about. Both come down to the same thing: seeing what you haven't been able to see, and from there, actually being able to do something different.
Being in Germany
Germany has a particular way of intensifying relational asymmetries that were already there. One person has a professional life, a language, a context. The other is building from nothing. The competent partner and the dependent one: it's a dynamic that affects desire, respect, and power in ways that accumulate quietly.
What couples bring to online therapy
Couples I work with come for recurring conflict, communication problems, infidelity and broken trust, emotional distance, codependency, resentment, sexless marriage, attachment issues, and the strain of major life transitions. Online marriage counseling and relationship therapy in English make it possible to do this work without geographic limits, whether you need a couples therapist, a marriage counselor, or relationship counseling that goes deeper than communication exercises.
How it works
Sessions are online via secure video call. I work with individuals and couples (60 minutes). Before your first session, we have a brief 15-minute call to see if this feels like the right fit for you.