Grief That Doesn't Follow the Rules
You're supposed to be over it by now. Or you never felt it at all. A therapist explains why grief doesn't move through stages - and why the loss you haven't cried for is still waiting.
Read more →Essays on what is actually underneath the flatness, the high-functioning depression that no one sees, the disappearance of pleasure, and the slow shutdown that the productivity culture has no language for.
You're supposed to be over it by now. Or you never felt it at all. A therapist explains why grief doesn't move through stages - and why the loss you haven't cried for is still waiting.
Read more →You get up, you perform, you keep it together. And underneath all of it, something is wrong. A therapist explains what happens when the system that keeps you going is the same one that keeps you from feeling.
Read more →It hits you at strange times. In the supermarket. In the shower. On the phone with your mom when she asks a question that shouldn't be hard to answer.
Read more →You've been Googling symptoms. Maybe you've taken one of those online quizzes. You scored somewhere in the middle, not severe, not normal.
Read more →Not sad. Not in crisis. Just flat. The future doesn't pull you forward and nothing feels worth the effort. A therapist explains what happens when the wanting system goes offline.
Read more →You've tried the self-care. You've set the boundaries. You've practiced saying no. None of it has fixed the thing that's actually wrong. A therapist explains what burnout really is and why the standard advice misses the point.
Read more →What nobody told you about the psychological cost of a PhD. It's not impostor syndrome. It's something more interesting, and more fixable.
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