Does Online Therapy Actually Work?
You're skeptical. The idea of doing therapy through a screen feels like it should be less than the real thing. I had the same skepticism. That's not what happened.
Read more →Patterns, Stuckness, and the Work of Therapy
Essays on the patterns that keep repeating. Why insight alone does not change them. And what depth therapy actually does that other forms of help do not. Start with whichever one sounds like you.
How Can I Think Positively About Something Bad?
The honest answer is that sometimes you can't. And sometimes you shouldn't. A therapist on why positive thinking backfires and what actually helps.
Read more →Why "Be More Vulnerable" Is Bad Advice
The internet has decided that vulnerability is the answer to everything. Can't connect with your partner? Be more vulnerable. Relationships feel shallow? Open up...
Read more →Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns
You've noticed the pattern. Maybe it's the same kind of argument showing up in every relationship. Maybe it's a way of responding to stress that you know doesn't serve you but that you can't seem to stop. Maybe it's a tendency to abandon things (projects, friendships, goals) right before they become real. (If you're in a PhD, you may recognize this as the way academia amplifies this pattern.)
Read more →You're Not Running Toward Something. You're Running From Something.
The story you tell is about adventure. About growth. About broadening your horizons. And that story might be true. But it's not the whole truth.
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