You keep almost getting what you want. Then something happens.

You get close to what you want, a relationship, a job, a feeling of stability, and then you do something to blow it up. You procrastinate until the deadline passes. You pick a fight when things are going well. You withdraw from the person who is offering you exactly what you asked for. The self-sabotage is not random and it is not laziness. It is a refusal to receive. You do not believe, at a level deeper than thought, that you are allowed to have the thing. And the sabotage is the mechanism that keeps the belief intact.

I work with the pattern underneath the sabotage: the specific way you learned that good things are dangerous, that happiness invites punishment, that getting what you want means losing something else. This is characterological work, not motivational coaching.

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